my life as a crocheter & knitter & working mom

Thursday, February 26, 2009

it's called comfort food for a reason

Yesterday afternoon, Hubby and I took Billy for a speech evaluation. I had discussed his speech with his pediatrician at his 4-yr check-up. She gave us a referral, but I came away thinking she'd suggested we wait until he started school and then it would be free. As he continued to improve in his speaking, we decided to not have him evaluated. Big mistake. The pediatrician came down hard on me at his 5-yr evaluation stating that waiting would mean he'd be put in special classes and be held back from where he should be. She gave us another referral. Hubby made an appointment and we went last night.

He doesn't have any speech impediments, other than a slight lisp that the speech language pathologist didn't seem worried about. She does see a language delay. She sees that he's not using language properly, that he doesn't understand the forms of language.

He couldn’t answer a lot of her questions (when she asked what one word describes this group of things in the picture, he’d list the things), didn’t complete sentences properly (when she said john is a boy, chris is a boy, they are both , and he’d say something like friends) and couldn’t re-tell a story about a picture she just told him but went off on his own wacky tangents among other things. She gave him a vocab test and he seemed to do pretty well. She said he probably just needs to have the building blocks spelled out for him. She suggested we call the school district and ask if they will evaluate and provide services before he’s enrolled. I think I’ll wait for her report to arrive in about a week. It will have the official diagnosis (or whatever you call it) along with recommendations for treatment (in case she's not providing the therapy).

I do realize now that he doesn't talk like a lot of kids his age. He doesn't talk about his day. He doesn't ask us a lot of questions about why and how that you usually hear. He doesn't stay engaged in a conversation. He makes things up (he got stung by a bee once, which isn't true), but doesn't really tell stories. He's totally non sequitor boy during the children's message at church.

The SLP gave me the sense that it's a very workable problem. And, strangely, Hubby hasn't freaked out at all. I was fine last night. I talked with my parents (they have some experience with this since one of my sisters had some serious speech impediments, they had to teach how to say the r sound as well as some others, and some reading delays) and did express soem of my underlying concerns about what this means for his learning abilities and whether or not it could go back to his birth (14 hours of episodes of dropping heartbeat and not breathing well on his own which resolved pretty quickly). I did tell the SLP about his early history with ear infections and she felt that was valuable information. Perhaps he just needs help catching up from a slow start. I don't know how far behind he is (maybe that will be in the report).

The problem is, I googled. I know, I shouldn't have. Now, I'm worried about underlying disabilities and future learning issues as well as chastising myself for being a bad parent for not recognizing sooner that he does have a real problem and for obviously doing something wrong so that my kid's not perfect.

I had a little breakdown, e-mailed my sister for some help, had a big, unhealthy lunch and chatted with a work friend who's also a mom. I feel better. E-mailing my sister helps. She's taken some education classes and she's just really grounded (it's because she's a hippie). She helped me find my rational mind and I wrote this:

I agree that too often we try to have kids be homogenous and label and box people to ridiculous levels. And it’s possible he’s just not going to be a chatty person (there’s some of that in the family). But, it was disconcerting to see him not be able to know what she was asking for and not be able to answer the questions. He’s very big on things being boring lately (he told me this morning that last night he didn’t sleep well because sleep is boring [in response to my sister's suggestion that maybe he didn't want to answer some of the questions]). Maybe he is just different and people will have to learn to deal with that. I just want to make sure he’s got all the tools he’s going to need to be whatever it is he wants to be.

I think that's all any parent should try to do, give their kids the tools to be successful in the life the kid chooses (that part's really important).

One other thing I learned, I need to eat more bacon cheeseburgers and chocolate. That's my idea of comfort food!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Where did those two weeks go?

Okay, really only a week and a half. We had a great visit with mom and dad. Hubby and I cooked the entire weekend. I made meatloaf on Friday, Hubby roasted a chicke on Saturdya, I made lasagna on Sunday and Hubby made roast beef on Monday. We ate leftovers all week!

I still haven't sewn anything, but I have been knitting! Billy's Laurie is fast approaching the finish. I completed both sleeves and am nearly half way through the front. Unfortunately, the cabling is slow. I hope to have it finished this weekend. If not, it will have to hibernate and B won't be able to wear it for Patrick's day. I absolutely, positively have to start F-i-L's birthday vest this weekend. Starting on Sunday gives me three weeks to get it done!

I do desparately want to start sewing soon. I so wanted to sew a dress for Patrick's day!

Thursday, February 12, 2009

I'm taking tomorrow off. My parents should be arriving by about 4 pm and Billy has his Valentine's day party at 9 am (to which a loved one was invited) and his 5-yo physical at 2:15. In between all this, I need to clean my house. Guest room was cleaned out quite a bit over the weeknd, but still some straightening needs to be done, bed needs clean sheets, and the public areas of the house are a disaster. I sure hope B stays at school tomorrow after the party. It's hard to get housework done when he wants to play.

I wish I could just play with my sewing machine tomorrow. I tried to do some sewing last night, but nothing turned out very well. I may get back at it tonight. Although, I'm really loving knitting B's sweater right now. I'm just zipping along sleeve one. Less than 10 cm to go! (It's a bit longer after lunch knitting than in this morning picture.)

Tomorrow night, after mom and dad hit the hay (they go to bed ridiculously early), I'm going to make a little something for B for V day. I'll share pics on Monday.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

where have I been?

Sick, dealing with an exasperating work situation that I had once hoped was done, not knitting much and not sewing at all.

I've gotten the back of B's Laurie about done. According to the pattern I should go 4 more cms, but I think 44 cm is way too long and I'm worried about not having enough yarn. Besides, I like where the patterns will meet up along the shoulder seams.

Since I'm worried about running out of yarn, I started a sleeve. If the sleeves take 1 ball or less, I should be fine. I've completed about 1/6th of the repeats needed.

I plan on knitting on this exclusively for this week and casting on F-i-L's birthday vest next week. I hope to do some sewing this week, but I don't know when. Westminster kennel club is on tonight and LOST is on tomorrow. Then my parents come down this weekend. Maybe I can work on something not too complicated during LOST tomorrow.

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

I'm so tired again. This time, it's hubby's fault. I caught his cold. I think I'm going to bail on my workout today. I just want to go home and sleep.

I should go home and knit. I still haven't finished the back of Billy's sweater. I measured this weekend and I still had 18 cm to go. I ordered some yarn today from Elann for F-i-L's birthday sweater (green v-neck vest this time). So, I'll need to start on that as soon as the yarn comes in order to finish on time (3/23). Don't think B will get to wear his sweater for St. Patty's day.

I should go home and sew. Fabric stash continues to grow. Some fabric ordered yesterday (4 yds of flannel for lining projects a la Amy Karol and for a kid's jacket) and I'm seriously jonesing on a quilt design (no, not the one I'm supposed to have already made for B).

the birthday sewing/crafting

I think Billy had a good birthday. He got lots of gifts (mostly of the transformer/power ranger variety) and we had a surprise visitor. Our friend Ted joined us at the last minute. I think B did like his mommy-made gifts, but they're nto as cool as the jets that become robots.

First, a new bag for his soccer gear. Easy drawstring bag. (The red is bias binding instead of doing a turned edge on the drawstring channel.)

Next is the tic tac toe game. I wish I could remember where I saw this type of game. Anyway, it was fun to make, but I'd do a few things differently.

All bundled for easy travel.
The bottom of the bundle.
The bottom with my horrible applique.
The game board itself. The Xs and Os are wood pieces I picked up at Joann and painted myself. They came five in a pack. We've already played twice. I'm ashamed to admit it, but he did beat me once.

Monday, February 02, 2009

Happy Fifth Birthday

Billy turns five today.

A few days old.

One year

And five.

It's such a cliche, but time does go too fast.